Practically every high income woman comes to point in her life when she makes the "money decision." It's when she says to herself, "it's time to make for me to make some money." While some women come to this decision early in their careers, for others the change comes later in life. The late bloomers are often prompted by a divorce, a lay-off or an illness that results in mounting debt or a diminished lifestyle.
Initially it's not necessary that you have a full blown plan of action. However the intention to make more money, becomes the basis for making new and different choices about your income and finances. Cultivating a "profit mentality" (see Day Two) calls for you to value the worth of your services appropriately. Having a profit mentality also means that you eliminate both the time wasting activities and the excuses that are keeping you from achieving your goal.
If you want to know your strongest intention regarding money---simply look at your current life. If you say that you want to make more money but you're in debt, in a low-paying job, you can't find the time to do what it takes to make more money or money simply eludes you---either you have not set an intention to make money or you have actually decided not be be financially successful. Remember no decision is still a decision.
YOUR HOMEWORK ASSIGNMENT:
Sit down with a piece of paper and write down that today you are intending to generate make more money.
1. Include a set dollar amount that you intend to make in the next 12 months.
2. Connect the money you intend to make to a concrete goal. For instance, I will use this extra $10,000 to pay down credit card bills, make a downpayment on a house; invest in my retirement fund or take a vacation.
3. Brainstorm about what steps you can take immediately to generate more income. (Be aware of internal resistence that you will feel---push past it)
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Sunday, June 28, 2009
Tuesday, June 16, 2009
"7 Days of Power Earning with Sophisticated Woman and Mama": Day Two
Yesterday I gave you some tips about finding out what would motivate you to make more money. Money as we discussed is merely a result--the endpoint. There has to be come strong emotional pull or goal that is going to make you undertake the work needed to change your mind-set and actions toward money.
The next step is to look at the shared characteristics of a power earners. It's important to look at the similarities between successful people as a way to change your own attitudes and behaviors.
Here are the four key traits of high-income women:
1. Profit-Mentality: They expect to be well compensated for their time, talent and/or expertise. They want to make money because they enjoy what money gives them.
2. Daring: They have a willingness to stretch beyond their comfort zones and try something that she's not altogether sure she can accomplish.
3. Resilience: They have ability to get up and brush herself off when she's faced with an obstacle or a flat-out failure.
4. Supportive network: They have nurturing friendships and personal relationships. There are people in their lives who cheer them on and encourage them to keep moving toward their goals.
YOUR HOMEWORK ASSIGNMENT:
Compare the 4 traits of high-income women to yourself. This exercise is not designed to make you feel bad. The purpose is to have you clearly assess how your beliefs,a ctions and relationships are impacting your ability to take that steps that would earn you more money. Afterwards look at each quality of power-earners and in each area decide on one step that you could take immediately to make a change. For instance you may decide to raise your rates or cut-back on "volunteering" your services unless you are REALLY passionate about the project.
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The next step is to look at the shared characteristics of a power earners. It's important to look at the similarities between successful people as a way to change your own attitudes and behaviors.
Here are the four key traits of high-income women:
1. Profit-Mentality: They expect to be well compensated for their time, talent and/or expertise. They want to make money because they enjoy what money gives them.
2. Daring: They have a willingness to stretch beyond their comfort zones and try something that she's not altogether sure she can accomplish.
3. Resilience: They have ability to get up and brush herself off when she's faced with an obstacle or a flat-out failure.
4. Supportive network: They have nurturing friendships and personal relationships. There are people in their lives who cheer them on and encourage them to keep moving toward their goals.
YOUR HOMEWORK ASSIGNMENT:
Compare the 4 traits of high-income women to yourself. This exercise is not designed to make you feel bad. The purpose is to have you clearly assess how your beliefs,a ctions and relationships are impacting your ability to take that steps that would earn you more money. Afterwards look at each quality of power-earners and in each area decide on one step that you could take immediately to make a change. For instance you may decide to raise your rates or cut-back on "volunteering" your services unless you are REALLY passionate about the project.
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Monday, June 15, 2009
"7 Days of Power Earning with Sophisticated Woman and Mama": Day One
One of the chief complaints I hear from women, particularly working mothers is that "I need to make more money." That "money" maybe for essentials like rent or food, or to leave a bad marriage or to provide their families with some well deserved extras. Women are notorious underearners. I describe an underearner as someone who consistently makes less income than she needs or that would be beneficial for her life and family, usually for no clear reason and despite her stated desire to do otherwise.
So today, on our first day of "7 Days of Power Earning with Sophisticated Woman and Mama" I am going to ask to you focus on your values rather than on making money.
Most high-income women say that money does not motivate them. They state their success and the money that followed are related to what money meant to them. Some of the values that high earning women associated with money are:
financial independence/freedom: the ability to take care of themselves and their children.
autonomy: the means to create the work environment and lifestyle that they desire.
service to others: the capacity to support and promote causes, ideas and people that are important to them.
fame being recognized locally, nationally or internationally as one of the best in a given field.
choices: being able to explore what the world has to offer.
To begin your journey to becoming a power earner, remember:
Money in nothing more than a tool for exchange---in and of itself it has no meaning.
YOUR HOMEWORK ASSIGNMENT:
For the moment, let's not talk about money. Instead list 5 of your key values---things have actually motivated to you action in the past-- things that speak to who you are as a person. From that list decide which one is the strongest motivator---meaning that the idea of achieving or experiencing it could spur you to make different choices about your work and life.
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So today, on our first day of "7 Days of Power Earning with Sophisticated Woman and Mama" I am going to ask to you focus on your values rather than on making money.
Most high-income women say that money does not motivate them. They state their success and the money that followed are related to what money meant to them. Some of the values that high earning women associated with money are:
financial independence/freedom: the ability to take care of themselves and their children.
autonomy: the means to create the work environment and lifestyle that they desire.
service to others: the capacity to support and promote causes, ideas and people that are important to them.
fame being recognized locally, nationally or internationally as one of the best in a given field.
choices: being able to explore what the world has to offer.
To begin your journey to becoming a power earner, remember:
Money in nothing more than a tool for exchange---in and of itself it has no meaning.
YOUR HOMEWORK ASSIGNMENT:
For the moment, let's not talk about money. Instead list 5 of your key values---things have actually motivated to you action in the past-- things that speak to who you are as a person. From that list decide which one is the strongest motivator---meaning that the idea of achieving or experiencing it could spur you to make different choices about your work and life.
If you're Feeling Stuck And Need Help--Why Not Schedule a Working Moms Starter Session. Click Here for Details
Wednesday, June 10, 2009
Becoming Free by Learning To Let it Go
Writer Sally Klimpton in a wonderful article in Yoga Journal discusses practicing detachment. The language is simple and encourages each of us,not to live in isolation, but to learn that worrying about or clinging to a person or situation will not bring us happiness. Ultimately we have to release the person or circumstance and let it take its natural course---toward us or away from us.
Klimpton says:
It took me a few years of throwing out the baby instead of the bathwater to figure out that detachment is not about external things. In fact, as is so often the case with the big issues of spiritual life, detachment involves a deep paradox. It's true that those without a lot of clutter in their lives have more time for inner practice. But in the long run, disengaging ourselves from family, possessions, political activism, friendships, and career pursuits can actually impoverish our inner lives. Engagement with people and places, skills and ideas, money and possessions is what grounds inner practice in reality. Without these external relationships, and the pressure they create, it's hard to learn compassion; to whittle away at anger, pride, and hardness of heart; to put spiritual insights into action.
So we can't use detachment as an excuse not to deal with fundamental issues such as livelihood, power, self-esteem, and relationships with other people. (Well, we can, but eventually those issues will rise up and smack us in the face, like an insulted ingenue in a 1950s movie.) Nor can we make detachment a synonym for indifference, or carelessness, or passivity. Instead, we can practice detachment as a skill—perhaps the essential skill for infusing our lives with integrity and grace.
To read the entire article: Just Let Go
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Klimpton says:
It took me a few years of throwing out the baby instead of the bathwater to figure out that detachment is not about external things. In fact, as is so often the case with the big issues of spiritual life, detachment involves a deep paradox. It's true that those without a lot of clutter in their lives have more time for inner practice. But in the long run, disengaging ourselves from family, possessions, political activism, friendships, and career pursuits can actually impoverish our inner lives. Engagement with people and places, skills and ideas, money and possessions is what grounds inner practice in reality. Without these external relationships, and the pressure they create, it's hard to learn compassion; to whittle away at anger, pride, and hardness of heart; to put spiritual insights into action.
So we can't use detachment as an excuse not to deal with fundamental issues such as livelihood, power, self-esteem, and relationships with other people. (Well, we can, but eventually those issues will rise up and smack us in the face, like an insulted ingenue in a 1950s movie.) Nor can we make detachment a synonym for indifference, or carelessness, or passivity. Instead, we can practice detachment as a skill—perhaps the essential skill for infusing our lives with integrity and grace.
To read the entire article: Just Let Go
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Yvonne Bynoe is a life coach whose company, SophisticatedWomanandMama.com supports working mothers. She is also the creator of the Working Moms Balancing System (TM), the proven step-by-step program to design your best life--one that is less stressful, more fulfilling and more prosperous. Find out more about Yvonne Bynoe at http://www.SophisticatedWomanandMama.com
Stoke Your Creativity by Trying Something New
When were in your twenties you woke up everyday to possibility. You believed that opportunities were coming your way and you were fertile with new ideas. In your gut, you believed that you were going to do big things and live large. At that time in your life you believed that any day your life would take off---you'd be transformed into the brilliant, urbane and dynamic---artist, entrepreneur, corporate executive, lawyer...fill in the blank, that you always dreamed of being. Additionally, you'd have a fabulous home, great friends, take luxury trips and have a loving and adoring partner.
As you crept into your thirties or forties you began to become "more realistic" and your creativity began to wane. It seems that you lost interest in big dreams, and you were using your precious little energy just to get through each day. You are probably engaged in a demanding career and have a variety of family obligations. You see yourself more in the past tense, than in the future. Your personal dreams and ambitions have taken a back seat to the practical matters of your life.
How do you reinvigorate yourself? One secret to sustaining creativity and a zest for life is being open to new experiences. Do something different, take a risk, stretch yourself. Professionally, you don't have to quit your job, but you may want to change direction in your current field. Personally, you could take a class, try a new restaurant or better yet take a trip to a new destination---anything that takes you out of your comfort zone.
Enjoying your life and continuing to see new opportunities is do-able. This can be achieved by seeing your life as a book with new chapters that you can still discover---rather than as a sitcom rerun you've seen a million times before.
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As you crept into your thirties or forties you began to become "more realistic" and your creativity began to wane. It seems that you lost interest in big dreams, and you were using your precious little energy just to get through each day. You are probably engaged in a demanding career and have a variety of family obligations. You see yourself more in the past tense, than in the future. Your personal dreams and ambitions have taken a back seat to the practical matters of your life.
How do you reinvigorate yourself? One secret to sustaining creativity and a zest for life is being open to new experiences. Do something different, take a risk, stretch yourself. Professionally, you don't have to quit your job, but you may want to change direction in your current field. Personally, you could take a class, try a new restaurant or better yet take a trip to a new destination---anything that takes you out of your comfort zone.
Enjoying your life and continuing to see new opportunities is do-able. This can be achieved by seeing your life as a book with new chapters that you can still discover---rather than as a sitcom rerun you've seen a million times before.
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Yvonne Bynoe is a life coach whose company, SophisticatedWomanandMama.com supports working mothers. She is also the creator of the Working Moms Balancing System (TM), the proven step-by-step program to design your best life--one that is less stressful, more fulfilling and more prosperous. Find out more about Yvonne Bynoe at http://www.SophisticatedWomanandMama.com
Tuesday, June 9, 2009
Don't Plan a Career, Instead Prepare & Build Skills
Sophisticated Woman and Mama Business Tip:
Clarence Otis, Jr. CEO of Darden Restaurants (Red Lobster, Olive Garden and Capital Grille) says the he received some particularly good career advice. It was, "As you think about career, it's not about planning it. Things are too dynamic; there's too much going on; there are too many things that'll pop up, good and bad. It's not about planning and career planning; it's about preparation and building skills. And if you do that, then you'll recover from the mishaps, and you'll be able to take advantage of the opportunities."
What preparation do you need to jumpstart?
What skills do you need to develop or build?
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Clarence Otis, Jr. CEO of Darden Restaurants (Red Lobster, Olive Garden and Capital Grille) says the he received some particularly good career advice. It was, "As you think about career, it's not about planning it. Things are too dynamic; there's too much going on; there are too many things that'll pop up, good and bad. It's not about planning and career planning; it's about preparation and building skills. And if you do that, then you'll recover from the mishaps, and you'll be able to take advantage of the opportunities."
What preparation do you need to jumpstart?
What skills do you need to develop or build?
Want To Use This Article on Your Website or Ezine?
No problem! But here's what you MUST include:
Yvonne Bynoe is a life coach whose company, SophisticatedWomanandMama.com supports working mothers. She is also the creator of the Working Moms Balancing System (TM), the proven step-by-step program to design your best life--one that is less stressful, more fulfilling and more prosperous. Find out more about Yvonne Bynoe at http://www.SophisticatedWomanandMama.com
Tuesday, June 2, 2009
Writing a Daily Script for Success
A person's thoughts--or rather what they focus on in a large part determines how his/her life unfolds. If that's the case, people can decide what kind of day that they'd like to have, what people they should meet or encounter and what they'd like to accomplish. Unfortuately, many of us are not able to successful create the lives that we wish.
According to business coach and intuitive, Mariana M Cooper:
The secret to getting these circumstances to occur is to ASK!! Believe it or not we seem to be much better about visualizing the BIG PICTURE. The big house, the new car, the great guy or gal who is our ULTIMATE soul mate, the windfall of money is what we envision. That is great! And it is important to have that big vision.
BUT here is the secret: You MUST visualize how you want the small in between steps to unfold as well! You must ASK for the resources, the next steps to take toward your ultimate goals that are for your highest good, the helpful people that can really move you forward etc.
Here is what I do each morning and it WORKS really well:
As you awake say "Thank you"
Then ask "How May I Serve?"
Then Script Your Day by declaring: "Today I see myself meeting a person who will...... or Today I will have an amazing money miracle that really propels me forward... or Today I am in the right place, at the right time meeting all the right people...
You can also take some time to actually visualize yourself solving a particular issue, having an easy time with a customer service agent, feeling surprised at the end of the day about how fabulous it all went...
Let yourself get emotional about it and feel the essence of your script coming to fruition!
And then LET IT GO!!!! Refrain from analyzing whether it is going to happen or if this works or why it works for someone else and not you etc etc.
According to business coach and intuitive, Mariana M Cooper:
The secret to getting these circumstances to occur is to ASK!! Believe it or not we seem to be much better about visualizing the BIG PICTURE. The big house, the new car, the great guy or gal who is our ULTIMATE soul mate, the windfall of money is what we envision. That is great! And it is important to have that big vision.
BUT here is the secret: You MUST visualize how you want the small in between steps to unfold as well! You must ASK for the resources, the next steps to take toward your ultimate goals that are for your highest good, the helpful people that can really move you forward etc.
Here is what I do each morning and it WORKS really well:
As you awake say "Thank you"
Then ask "How May I Serve?"
Then Script Your Day by declaring: "Today I see myself meeting a person who will...... or Today I will have an amazing money miracle that really propels me forward... or Today I am in the right place, at the right time meeting all the right people...
You can also take some time to actually visualize yourself solving a particular issue, having an easy time with a customer service agent, feeling surprised at the end of the day about how fabulous it all went...
Let yourself get emotional about it and feel the essence of your script coming to fruition!
And then LET IT GO!!!! Refrain from analyzing whether it is going to happen or if this works or why it works for someone else and not you etc etc.
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