Becoming Fearless in Love

One of the things women find hard to do in relationships is make clear what we want. In fact, we fear that doing so might be a turn off to the man. But part of fearlessness is expressing what's important to us and knowing that we are strong enough---and willing---to walk away if the other person can't handle the mere expression of our needs.

Of course, we should also be aware of how we ask for what we want. Are we asking or demanding? Is what we're asking for what we really want or a stand-in for something else that we're actually too afraid to bring up? And if we don't always get what we want (which is inevitable), are we going to be bitter and resentful about it?

Excerpt from On Becoming Fearless by Arianna Huffington