This morning at breakfast my five year old son said, "You are the best of mommies." As I tried to hold back my tears, I replied, "I try, I try very hard." I do my best for my son everyday, not because I am seeking his praise, but because I have the intention of being the very best mother that I can be to him. In life that's all you can do---try your best.
Some days you'll triumph and on other days you'll flounder or straight-up fail. The key to remember is that the people closest to you, the ones who matter most, are not seeking perfection from you. They merely want to feel that you care enough about them, their feelings and their wishes to do your best by them on a regular basis.
Some of us take on a bunch a projects or try to cater to a zillion friends and acquaintances, knowing full well that we aren't interested in or really capable of doing our best by them. It's no wonder that neither you nor the people you are claiming to serve feel satisfied with your efforts. Half-stepping really isn't worth it. Do something because you love it and want to give it your all....or just don't bother.
It's forseeable that later on this afternoon, my son will "quit me" because I'll decline his request for another snack or because I'll tell him that TV time is over. Again, I'm making my decisions, not to be a scold, but because I love him.
I usually explain the reasons for my actions to him and I do my best to give him more yes'es than no's. So even when he's perturbed that he didn't get his way, he knows that mommy is doing her best for him...and that's what matters.
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