Are You Stuck?

Frequently working mothers hit a point in their lives where they feel stuck. They are still clinging to the past, without a clear idea about how to move into the present. I'm having an "identity crisis" is a more sophisticated way of saying that I'm "stuck." However you decide to phrase it, being "stuck" is maintaining an idea of who you are, even though your present circumstances make that concept obsolete. Among the life changes that alter our lives are: marriage, motherhood, death, divorce and job loss. In order to become "un-stuck," and move on to the next phase of your life you first have to give yourself permission to explore new ideas about who you are.

Oprah. BFF, Maria Shiver has written a little book that may be help working moms to become un-stuck. The book, Just Who Will You Be? challenges reader to ask themselves "What do I believe" and "Who do I want to be" rather than "What do I want to be." The major distinction is that "Who do I want to be" speaks to your essence as a human being, whereas "What do I want to be," is nothing more than another title---like a job description.

One of the wisest passages is as follows:

"You can spend the rest of your life trying to measure up, trying to figure out and fulfill other people's expectations of you--or right now, you can make a decision to let it all go. And you can start by talking about what you know, what you feel and what you think. You can start by talking about who you want to be!"

The main idea of this book is that it's never too late to become the person that you want. Whether you are 20, 30, 40, 50+ years old, you can STILL decide to change the direction of your life.

Exercise:
Where in your life are you stuck? If this is the hour of your life, as Maria Shriver asked:
-How do you want to spend it?
-What do you want to do with it?
-What is the truth about yourself that you need to speak