Stop Being Your Worse Enemy

I found a wonderful article about self-sabotage. Very often we say that we WANT to improve our lives, or live in a particular manner, but will act in a manner totally contrary to our stated intentions.

To get some more perspective is an excerpt from Debby Ford's articles, Why Good People Do Bad Things:

Our headlines are filled with stories of good people gone astray. They show up on the evening news, on the front page of newspapers, and splashed across the weekly tabloids: the TV evangelist who gets arrested for soliciting prostitutes; the schoolteacher who carries on an affair with one of her students; or the baseball star who gambles on his own games. These public downfalls have become our national obsession, but much more common acts of self-destruction and sabotage are taking place right now in our own backyards. The successful doctor who gambles his kids' college tuition away; the public official who takes a bribe; the PTA mom who is carrying on an affair with her best friend's husband; the husband whose neglect and procrastination ends up costing him his marriage…. These are people whom most of us would consider to be "good people," not common criminals, psychopaths, or sociopaths whose histories might predict their unscrupulous behavior. These are people like you and me, people who started out with high hopes and big dreams for their futures. But despite their good intentions, these so-called good people did some very bad things, most often without even understanding why.

Despite how they may appear, incidents like these are not a coincidence and they don't come from "out of the blue." Acts of self-sabotage are predictable. They arise from the repression of what I call our "dark side," the parts of ourselves and our lives that we find too inconvenient to admit; too embarrassing to accept. Regardless of how intently we try to hide, deny, or suppress them, every aspect of ourselves that we've deemed unacceptable or wrong will eventually make itself known - sometimes when we least expect it. When we are busy building a business, creating a family, or working hard to achieve some long-desired goal, these rejected or unwanted aspects of ourselves can pop up and destroy our lives, our reputations, and all of our hard work. This is what I call the Beach Ball Effect.
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Also be sure to download Debby's FREE Self-Assessment. The link is at the end of the article.